Jiminy Glick interviews Seinfeld: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=AE2utktZ92Y
Six Powerful Communication Tricks: https://buffer.com/resources/6-powerful-communication-tricks-from-some-of-the-worlds-best-interviewers
"I know you won't believe me but the highest form of human excellence is to question oneself and others." –Socrates
Many Active Senior Resorts have meet-and-greet lunches (before the Virus) and perhaps former meetings left you wandering around looking for conversation. By now, you have learned your limitations. Good news...your public speaking skills may need some additional listening skills.
I reviewed a book in Blue Publications XIV that completely explores Listening skills for Military and Police. The point is there are hundreds of techniques to keep the conversation flowing. A friend advises a note pad and quick visits to the bathroom to record data.
One way to end a conversation is a long VN war story or rehashing Rush Limbaugh.
Talking to the grandkids, I avoid leading questions and direct questions preferring questions like "What is your favorite class?"
to determine the Major.
YouTube provides training videos. Amazon has detective training books.